As the official friendship day is approaching, I got the perfect occasion to write what friendship actually means to me. I have had friends who have come and gone from my life when I was in kindergarten, middle school, high school and now that I am in university, I am left with friends that I can count on fingers.
Everybody is different and goes through various experiences. I was the type of person who used to have so many friends at a time. It was a matter of pride for me to have so many friends and the problems and worries bothered me and kept me so sad and I felt so inferior most of the time. I used to
also butter up my friends and now I have four to five close friends and not one hundred friends that I will not keep contact for a long time.
Over prioritizing others was what I used to do as well because I feared to be left alone. I needed that support of others and it was quite naive from my side as I was usually feeling out of the picture. But I wanted to be surrounded by many so as not to be appear a loner in public although I was always known as somebody else's best friend and never had my own identity. Things are not similar nowadays.
Usually I make friends easily even if I am a shy person, it must be a miracle to be honest. I have also faced so many difficulties to adapt with people and I used to let people crush you and lived in the shadows. I am glad that I have grown a lot with the passing time and know that I can be known as an individual who has an identity that others know, even if they still have problems in pronouncing my simple name that I get annoyed at times.
There is a quote of Imam Ali (as): ''A friend cannot be considered a friend unless he is tested on three occasions: in time of need, behind your back and after your death.'' For me, a friend means somebody who is there when I need him/her, takes care of me, knows what to say and what not to say, respect my views, religion, beliefs, rants and opinions. I do not want something extravagant or big from my friend. Also I want to have deep conversations under the stars if I am quite comfortable with the person.
Everybody is different and goes through various experiences. I was the type of person who used to have so many friends at a time. It was a matter of pride for me to have so many friends and the problems and worries bothered me and kept me so sad and I felt so inferior most of the time. I used to
also butter up my friends and now I have four to five close friends and not one hundred friends that I will not keep contact for a long time.
Over prioritizing others was what I used to do as well because I feared to be left alone. I needed that support of others and it was quite naive from my side as I was usually feeling out of the picture. But I wanted to be surrounded by many so as not to be appear a loner in public although I was always known as somebody else's best friend and never had my own identity. Things are not similar nowadays.
Usually I make friends easily even if I am a shy person, it must be a miracle to be honest. I have also faced so many difficulties to adapt with people and I used to let people crush you and lived in the shadows. I am glad that I have grown a lot with the passing time and know that I can be known as an individual who has an identity that others know, even if they still have problems in pronouncing my simple name that I get annoyed at times.
There is a quote of Imam Ali (as): ''A friend cannot be considered a friend unless he is tested on three occasions: in time of need, behind your back and after your death.'' For me, a friend means somebody who is there when I need him/her, takes care of me, knows what to say and what not to say, respect my views, religion, beliefs, rants and opinions. I do not want something extravagant or big from my friend. Also I want to have deep conversations under the stars if I am quite comfortable with the person.
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